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This is going to sound strange, not being a mommy but having a mommy moment; it sounds strange to me too! So, let me take you back a few years so I can explain.

When my nephew was 2 years old (hes now 10), I offered to babysit him one day a week so I could develop a relationship with him. Id missed out on doing this with the previous 5 nieces and nephews to a large extent so I didnt want to miss out on this one. This little boy had already captured my heart but I wanted more. Well, Ill tell you, I got more! He has always been very intelligent, not to mention that he was TWO. You mommies all know what that means, right?

You moms are all going to laugh, because although Im the eldest of six children and very capable of diaper changing and feeding, I had no idea what to actually do with him all day. I kept thinking how do women get anything done when they have children around? That first day I was wiped out tired when his parents picked him up because I just assumed that a toddler needed constant entertaining.

We played with his toys which took up about 10 minutes, went outside to look at plants and tell him the names of flowers, and my golden retriever joined in but that took maybe another 15 minutes. I had only 6 hours to go! The diaper changing took up a bit of time (I was rusty), and meal time was interesting trying to understand what he did and didnt like I was fooled. Then I decided, well I need a moment to rest, Ill play some music! That was the key to a very enjoyable summer of learning to interact with my nephew and develop our own special relationship.

One of the first things I did was shorten the hours I had him with me! I wanted to get to know him, NOT become a surrogate mom. We finally got a routine down where we listened to music and danced together. It was such great fun and we both laughed and enjoyed that. I participated with his parents in the potty training phase something I dont feel the need to do again but was a good lesson for me to learn. I learned he liked macky cheese for lunch and of course, since I am auntie, he got special chocolate snacks too. That made nap time even more difficult since he wasnt ever and still isnt the napping sort. How could anyone nap with all that sugar in them anyway??

Our relationship grew and grew as that wonderful summer progressed. He was a great little helper, and even helped me clean my refrigerator one day. My dog was used to being my baby and he was jealous but ever the tolerant golden. I taught my nephew how to dance, which was fun and we played lots of boy tumbling games Im a tomboy myself so it worked. Since it was summer I joined him at my moms one day a week too. He always wanted to swim with mostly me, much to his parents chagrin. To this day, Thursdays are my swimming days with him and now his sister too. I guess he brought out the kid in me! You may be wondering where is that mommy moment, so here it comes.

On one of our days together, my husband and I were in the kitchen talking. My husband was working a swing type shift for the US Postal Service back then and hadnt left for work yet. Macky cheese was cooking on the stove, not yet ready for my nephew to do his part of adding the cheese and stirring, the stereo was blaring in the background, my dog was trucking around keeping an eye on my nephew. My nephew was skipping around in a circle nearby making toddler noises.

Then it happened the mommy moment. I stopped talking to my husband to look at my nephew and sort of chuckle at his toddler singing noises, and looked around in a sort of daze, thinking, This is a mommy moment! This is what moms do all day and never think twice about it in order to keep their sanity and their selves intact. My nephew had blended into my life almost so seamlessly, that I had become comfortable with the routine and noises while keeping an ever vigilant eye open for him and yet continuing on in my daily chores.

This is what all you moms do daily, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week! All I can say is, with much ado, you are all phenomenal women, all of you! God has gifted you with such a tremendous gift of motherhood and with that gift comes a tremendous responsibility.

You fix the boo boos, change the diapers, are chauffeur, chef, arbitration expert, financial wizard, stain masters, and so much, much more! Moms, you have all the skills required to run conglomerates just by what is required to be a mom. Remember that during the struggles that inevitably ensue, and grab one of those mommy moments from your treasure box to get you through. I do, and Im not even a mom.

Listen my son, accept what I say, and the years of your life will be many. I guide you in the way of wisdom and lead you along straight paths. When you walk, your steps will not be hampered; when you run, you will not stumble. Hold onto instruction, do not let it go; guard it well, for it is your life. Proverbs 4: 10 13, NIV.

Lets not forget Proverbs 31 either!

Kim Bloomer operates a home business in wellness, Aspenbloom . She is also publisher of a pet wellness channel, Aspenbloom-WellPet. Kim is co-founder of channel KTEH, an online marketing advertising co-op. Go to http://KimBloomer.com for an all inclusive look.

Making out your Advance Directives must be first on your to do list. It is better to plan in advance then to rely on fantasies of how we think others would react to making decisions for us. Others may make decisions that may be in their own best interest not yours. Unplanned events sometimes occur in our lives that may take away the opportunity for us to make our own decisions. Why burden others with expense and timely legal problems.

A living will allows you to document your wishes concerning medical treatment when you are unable to speak for your self or nearing the end of life. A medical power of attorney allows you to appoint someone to be your health care agent, usually some one you trust, who will be authorized to make medical and health care decisions, (medical treatment, care provider and environment) on your behalf.

No matter what your age is or how long you expect to be in good health or to be alive planning for your health care in the event of a medical health crisis is a priority. Give yourself a voice. For many of us it is very difficult to talk to the ones we love about events that we do not want to see as possible or inevitable.

Talking to those you love about what to do in the event of a medical health crisis is important even though it is impossible to foresee every event or circumstance. Bringing in your family and friends into the process will help you get a feeling for who may be best able and willing to support the decisions that are import ant for you.

When talking about your decisions it is important to consider your values and beliefs, as this is very personal. Advance Directives can be changed as your health circumstance changes. With age and change in life style habits our physical bodies may be prone to certain disease progression or debilitating impairments of one kind or another. So reviewing and updating your advance directives is important.

Talk to your medical provider or doctor and let then know that you are making your advance directives. They will be glad to know this. Your doctor can answer your questions about your health and explain treatments and possible outcomes. Let your Doctor know about the quality of life you want in the event of a medical health crisis. >Find out if your doctor is willing to follow your wishes, as the law does not require them to, if they disagree and feel it is unethical or against their morals.

Consider the following:

• Current age, life style and activity.

• How you feel about doctors, caregivers and care-giving environments.

• Your religious beliefs and your morals, values and ethical attitudes about care and illness.

• Attitude about control and independence and the possible loss.

• Health, illness, fearful situations of death and dying.

When you are ready to appoint a health care agent you may want to select some one you trust and understands your decisions. The person you select can be a spouse/partner, family member or a friend. It needs to be some one who is willing to act on your behalf. Some individuals may not be able to act on your behalf if they do not understand or agree with what you determine is the best and appropriate treatment for you. It is important to clarify what you want to reduce any remorseful feelings. Keep in mind that health care agents can make medical decisions when you are unable to, not just at life end.

You can obtain Advance Directives and Medical Power of Attorneys from your local hospital, long-term care facility, your physician may have them available, your local libraries reference desk, and your local Senior Law Office.

Partnership for Caring Provides additional information about Advance Directives and Health Care powers of Attorney. They also provide forms that you can download for free. All they require is you completing a simple registration form. They do not share your information. Go to this link now to get your free Advance Directives: Partnership For Caring

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The journey from the Earth to the Moon is one of the pivotal events in the history of the human race. The words, A small step for man, a giant leap for mankind, uttered by Astronaut Neil Armstrong on taking his first step on the Moon are instantly recognized around the world.

In our relationships, when faced with making a commitment and showing our true feelings its very much like making a journey to the Moon. The debate rages around fear of commitment and who says what first. Tremendous energy, time and space is being dedicated to analyzing when to say I love you and what to do depending on the other persons response. There are even strategies for trying to say I love you, without actually saying it! These three little words are so loaded with meaning, that after saying I love you, we might as well add, three small words for mankind, a giant leap for me… Once you say these three magic words the world does indeed change for the two people involved.

If its such a difficult thing to say and has such consequences, then why do people continue to say it? The answer is that the basis for a true romantic relationship is sincere and mutual commitment. We all have a fundamental need to be loved, a love that is beyond the love of parents, siblings and friends. Everybody needs to be loved and to love somebody. The sum of the creative works of humanity is a testament to mankinds need for love.

The problem arises when one or both of the people in a relationship are not in love with each other. If they can be honest with themselves and each other, then they can establish that the basis of the relationship is something other than love and avoid making a commitment. If people could do this and easily have relationships without love, then most of the relationship advice industry would very quickly run out of work. The reality is that at least one person in every relationship thinks that the relationship is based on love or at some point has the chance of being so.

Fortunately, or unfortunately, depending on your point of view, there is no easy way to get around saying I love you, unless one is great liar or an Oscar winning actor. If in doubt, you can try saying the following lines while looking in the mirror and feel the truth for yourself:

I like you

You mean so much to me

I really like you

You make feel special

I love you

Feel the difference? The truth has a resonance that is very difficult to fake and, when it comes to love, you can bet everybodys senses are tuned in at maximum sensitivity. When you are ready and truly say I love you to somebody this entails many things. To mention a few implications, its expected that youre sincere, that youll be faithful and that youve given this matter some thought. Your statement is said with conviction about your feelings and in the hope that the other person can reciprocate your love, but it is by no means an expectation or obligation on the other person. This is the scary part about love, the fear of saying I love you and then hearing a very long and painful silence afterwards. The fear of this results in many people never being able to say what they feel.

For those people who are truly in love, not saying I love you to their loved one leaves them feeling empty and unfulfilled. Sometimes its not the response thats important but the conviction which enables one to say I love you. The belief that you have found the right person and to have the emotion of love flowing in your heart is a feeling thats central to the meaning of life and for many worth the risk of unrequited love. As St. Augustine said, Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.

Who loves you? The answer is simple; its the person who has the conviction to say I love you and then lives up to all that these three words entail.

The author can be contacted by email: pjmac@reallytruecards.com

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If you are seeking treatment for fine lines and wrinkles, you probably don’t want to take off too much time from work or an active lifestyle. That’s why no-wounding treatments for facial rejuvenation offer a solution, according to the American Society for Dermatologic Surgery.

This noninvasive approach is ideal for fine lines and skin imperfections, and eliminates the prolonged side effects and extended recovery period from traditional plastic surgery. Another example is the full-face intense pulsed light treatments, a specific type of non- surgery procedure, many patients saw dramatic improvement. All aspects of photo-damage, including wrinkling, skin texture irregularities, pore size and broken blood vessels, showed visible impovement in more than 90% of subjects with minimal downtime and no scarring.

Non-wounding lasers and intense-pulsed light sources work by targeting light energy on the underlying skin while leaving the surface of the skin harmed and intact.

Mina is a skincare specialist and makeup artist. She has studied in New York City with the best in her field and has become an expert in the beauty industry. You can visit her website at http://www.BeautyImagebyMina.com

Some makeup seems to travel at the speed of light; you put it on and the next thing you notice it’s on your white blouse. Or maybe you’re one who doesn’t care if it’s oil free,hypoallergenic

or free from any perservatives, but for some reason all brands of makeup seem to irritate your sensitive skin. Your problem maybe solved with mineral makeup. Mineral makeup does not contain perfume, talc, chemical dyes and chemical perservatives or even perfume. Since mineral makeup lacks synthetic irritants it is less likely that will irritate your skin and it will last all day. It will also protect skin from natural sunlight. Mineral makeup is effective at blocking both UVA and UVB rays.

Mina Dimakis-Lev is an expert in the skincare industry and the art of makeup. Her work and articles can be seen at http://www.BeautyImagebyMina.com

There are many kind of lace-work arts in Italy, such as in many other Europe countries. But some of them are quite on the way to disappear.

In the central portion of Italy the great town of Bologna -one of the richest town in Italy, important university and medical research center- in the early 900s, during the two world wars, this town was protagonist of an economic miracle called “aemilia ars”.

Aemilia ars was the name given to the local decorative art nouveau style (also called “liberty”)and it was also the name given to the Bologna needle-lace, born thanks to the Cavazza family.

Countess Lina Cavazza in particular, besides devoting herself to numerous charitable works, committed herself to generating a female industry which could guarantee well-paid work to women and at the same time affirm social and human values.

Despite wars, natural calamities, earthquakes and serious economic crises, Bologna lace survived and helped whole families to survive, too.

for more info: http://www.lacemadeinitaly.com or http://www.artigianocreativo.com let me have your comments/suggestions/questions: info@lacemadeinitaly.com,info@artigianocreativo.com

When we moved 6000 miles away from our families 22 years ago, I certainly never imagined I would be working in the business my grandfather established way back when. Way back when … there was no internet, no low cost international telephone service, no e-mail, and no digital photography. My children are grown up now, and theoretically I COULD leave the house and find outside employment, but I have now chosen not to take that path. This time the decision is a calculated one.

Throughout my family’s childhood and teen years, I solved the “where to be first issue” by working from home. My hard-earned M.Sc. degree in Human Resource Administration was shelved – although I would like to think I applied some of the key principles to running our in-house human resources. As a fluent English speaker in a foreign country, armed with the latest computer equipment in my own home when computers were fairly new even in offices, I opened an English-language word processing business out of a corner of my living room.

My clients came from the nearby academic centers and new hi-tech industry park. As word processing became more sophisticated, I moved on to desktop publishing and was soon creating books, brochures, and journals. I attended seminars, read the literature and soon expanded my services to offer copywriting and marketing communication. Over the years my portfolio grew and I felt

a special frisson whenever I saw a company with my marketing material succeed.

All the while, the children were growing up, and although often pressured from the deadlines and demands of not one boss, but many — as is the plight of the independent business person — I was able to “be there” for them and participate in school and club events.

Over the years, I co-authored a book, established, published and wrote an online magazine with two women partners, and with them

also built an online business. All this while, my children graduated high school, served in the army, traveled abroad, returned, left home, returned, had a baby, worked abroad, returned, got a girlfriend (who knows? he doesn’t tell me anything…), and we built a house. Now I have a fabulous corner office looking out on the garden and my husband has his own

sanctuary upstairs.

And then my father surprised me during a routine touch-base

telephone call, which he later backed up with an e-mail note. “I’ve been thinking… Maybe you see a way to use the internet for our business? Is there a way you could direct something

like that?”

Well, blow me away. I just happened to be at a crossroads. My husband was preparing to set out on a two-week long male-bonding trek in the Himalayas, I was recuperating from a torn miniscus operation, my son was nearing the end of his army duty, the downturn in high tech and in tourism had negatively effected my bottom line, I cherished drop in visits to my little granddaughter, and I needed an opportunity I could sink my teeth into.

When Joel headed east to trek, I headed west to create a new interface to a 90-year-old family business, Maurice Goldman Fine Jewelry.

Over the last eight months, the learning curve has been steep.

Within 2 weeks of opening our eBay store, the fraudsters were running rampant.

David Bloom wrote in from Cremona, Italy, with ready cash for a $20,000 sapphire ring, and a strong recommendation that we use an escrow service to protect him from losing his hard earned cash. It’s true that he never spoke about protecting us from losing our hard earned merchandise… At the eleventh hour, well, actually at 8 AM in my pajamas in front of the computer screen, with the aid of my calm and analytical husband, I avoided our first theft in the virtual world. We learned that not all escrow sites are created equal, and that the one our “customer” “recommended” was a fraud. In his last e-mail note to me, Mr. Bloom lamented that the site was phony, and that he had just suffered a loss of $20,000. Couldn’t we have told him sooner?(!)

Other would-be sales included stolen credit cards (this is apparent when the buyer suggests that you take MORE money than you the posted sales price to cover charges), more fraudulent escrow sites, money transfer deals, and a bank check swindle. As Joel points out, the crooks are always a step ahead.

My work vocabulary has grown exponentially, as has my respect for the business world in general, and my father in particular.

Our business issues are the same: to source new products, to market and sell to a growing customer base, and to avoid theft and fraud. But whereas my Dad deals with the real world, my

business is virtual. I find the global reach of the virtual world tremendously satisfying and very neat. Customers tell us that our online presence means they can acquire goods otherwise unavailable in their small towns. So here I am in Israel, promoting and selling jewelry that is in New York, to customers around the world, without leaving the house. The process of building and handling the internet extension of our family

business, and combining family, home and business

brings me full circle. My cup runneth over.

Judith Isaacson lives in Israel from where she develops and runs the internet end of the family jewelry business which is based in New York. http://www.mauricegoldman.com

Theres a reason Sex and the City is so popular. Women everywhere are learning to celebrate being single and to stop judging themselves on the nature of their marital status. This new trend is fairly recent, but being single has finally become a distinction to be proud of. Thats not to say that women in committed relationships are missing out on this experience (weve all been single at some point), but whether youre currently part of a couple or not, being single is no longer equated with being desperate, nor do single women rush to the altar at the first prospect of a long-term relationship.

There are, of course, the classic reasons while single women should rejoice: you dont have to fight for remote control ownership, nor do you have to wash smelly socks and smellier underwear. You can control your own finances, and if you want to go on a shopping spree, you dont have to hide the receipts and the clothes in the back of the closet. You can hog the bed, and all the covers. You can drool over Hugh Jackman and Johnny Depp without worrying about making anyone jealous. And you dont have to fake an orgasm. Ever.

But there has to be more to it than that. What about the freedom of being unattached? Single women can go out with whomever they want, as often as they want, for as long as they want. And were not even necessarily talking about men. They can hang out with their girlfriends every night till three in the morning without having to explain themselves when they get home.

And yes, there is the freedom to date as well, and the ability to enjoy the experience. Being careful and safe is still at the top of a single womans list of priorities, but that doesnt mean she cant have a blast. She can have dinner with a different charming man every weekend, or (lets face it), jump into bed with him, only to dish about the experience with her girlfriends the next day.

And for those of us who are in happy committed relationships, theres always the thrill of hearing about the latest romantic mishaps from our single pals. We can always count on our single friends to brighten our days with their tales of romantic woe or incredible amorous adventures.

A single woman in todays society must possess courage: the courage to go out there, have her heart broken, then do it all over again. She has the freedom to be independent, to choose, and to experiment. And when she does find the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with, shell have a wealth of knowledge to aid her in making that relationship last.

Lacey Savage is the author of a number of sensual romance short stories, novels and novellas. Her articles and works of fiction often focus on women’s issues and relationships. Find out more about Lacey at http://www.laceysavage.com

If you don’t write, you can’t submit. If you don’t submit, you can’t get published.

It might sound simple, silly even, but how many of us keep telling ourselves that we’re going to write a book one day? Some day. When we have more time. When the kids are grown. When life doesn’t demand quite so much of our attention.

Here’s a newsflash: there is no such time. When I was in University, earning my English Literature degree, I couldn’t wait to have a real job. I thought it meant I’d have more free time to myself. “Self,” I said. “Just imagine coming home from work and being able to do whatever you want. No more exams to study for. No more Shakespeare to read. It’ll be pure heaven!”

At this point, I can hear the lot of you with day jobs snickering. I now know how nave I was. Having a day job means I spend fifty hours a week at work instead of the fifteen I was spending at school. Then I have to come home and spend time with my poor, neglected husband. And let’s not even talk about chores. Those are still not getting done.

Bottom line: writing wasn’t likely to happen unless I made it happen. So, I made a list of goals. Each day’s goals are different, that way I can challenge myself and not feel like I’m stuck in a repetitive rut. I’m not proud to admit that I don’t meet my goals most days, but that’s okay. At least I try. And the book’s getting written one word at a time.

But what if you have your novel / novella / short story written, and you don’t submit it? Maybe you think it’s not polished or professional enough. Maybe you think no one will like it. Or maybe you’re simply afraid of rejection. These are all very good reasons, in your mind, not to submit your story to a publisher.

Newsflash number two: if you don’t submit, you’ll never get published. Ever. Publishers aren’t mind readers. They don’t know that you’ve written the next bestseller unless you show it to them, sell it to them. Yes, that means putting yourself out there, subjecting yourself to the inevitable rejections. And that’s okay, too.

Join some writing groups, online or in your home town, the venue doesn’t matter. What does matter is the support and the friendships you can form. Knowing that you’re not alone, that there are many of us who put ourselves through this every day can encourage even the shyest writer.

So write. Submit. Get published.

I, for one, can’t wait to read your work.

Lacey Savage is the author of a number of sensual romance short stories, novels and novellas. Her articles and works of fiction often focus on women’s issues and relationships. Find out more about Lacey at http://www.laceysavage.com

A woman we’ll call “Jane” thought she was a great “catch” and a “perfect partner” but she wondered why her relationships always seemed to fail.

Here’s what she wrote to us–

“I dated men of various ages and cultures but all my relationships ended up in disaster. I constantly searched, hoping for love to come my way. Then I started reading your newsletters. I carried a lot of personal baggage from my past and set unrealistic standards and expectations for my lovers hoping they would fail because I was afraid to fail. I was afraid they would hurt me and disappoint me, so I made sure I would be in control when they did.”

In this situation, Jane has an incredible opportunity in front of her. She can continue as she has been, being fearful and attracting people who will disappoint her or she can learn from what she has discovered about her patterns from the past.

It’s been our experience that we attract the people into our lives who show us what we need to heal within ourselves, new possibilities for the future, and the contrast of what we want and don’t want in our lives.

We take the rather contrarian view that there are no relationship mistakes or failures and only opportunities to heal, learn, grow and experience joy.

Even though “Jane” thought her relationships were failures, each one was actually another chance to become more emotionally aware of what was going on inside her, what she wanted for her life and to give her an opportunity to heal and create new ways to do it differently.

What we have found is that we keep attracting the same type of person, not just intimate partners, and experiences into our lives until we heal the past and “do it

differently.”

Otto’s car is a black Buick Century with leather seats. He’s very hot natured and since we live in Ohio where the summers are very hot and humid, he suffers in his “hot” car. He loved the way the car looked on the showroom floor, but his day-to-day experience has given him a powerful lesson of what he doesn’t want in a car. As you can imagine, he’s made a clear intention through the power of contrast that his next car will not be black or have leather seats.

He had an opportunity to learn this lesson when he was 18 years old and drove a black Ford Pinto station wagon with no air-conditioning to Tampa, Florida at the beginning of August. He swore then as he sat in traffic with sweat dripping onto the steering wheel that he’d never have another black car.

Obviously, he hadn’t learned this lesson so he needed to bring another black car into his experience.

The point is that Otto has finally learned from this valuable experience and will do it differently the next time, although he really likes a lot about his current car.

This story is an example of coming to an awareness of what you want and what you don’t want and of learning from past experiences that are not “failures” but are opportunities for expansion and growth.

Please don’t misunderstand us and think that we are recommending that because you don’t like something about your current partner or job that you “throw them away” and get another “model.”

What we are recommending is that you take the opportunity to become emotionally aware, like “Jane” did, as much of the time as possible. Decide that you deserve to have a great relationship and a great life, whatever that means to you.

We are inviting you to learn from the past and the power of contrast so that you can begin creating the life you want.

Here are some ideas to help you…

1. Whenever something is important to you, don’t stuff it down and pretend it doesn’t matter. Have the courage to share it with your partner.

2. Accept responsibility for your part in past relationships that haven’t worked out the way you wanted them to work out. Look for reoccurring patterns that will show

you where you need to heal.

3. Know that there’s no such thing as failure in relationships, only experiences that you may not have enjoyed.

4. Embrace the idea that no matter what has happened in your relationships up until now, the future can be different.

So in a sense, each person who comes into our lives is “the perfect partner” for us if we use these experiences that we have with them to heal, learn and grow.

For more info on your “perfect partner,” go to

http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/perfectpartner.htm

Susie and Otto Collins

P.O. Box 1614

Chillicothe, Ohio 45601

(740) 772-2279